What are some good water based moisturizers for African American hair?

Also what are some good shampoos to make your hair grow. I am trying to grow my own hair out because I hate weave so much! huh!!! Also how do you straighten black people hair without perms and not damaging it with a flat iron.What are some good water based moisturizers for African American hair?
Biolage by matrix is very good. (salon products) What will grow your hair is you taking good care of it by washing it once a week(african americans should wash their hair 1 time a week to build up the oils in their hair, more then that will make your scalp dry. Also keeping your scalp conditioned and greased. Brushing your hair at night stimulating your scalp is good to it increases blood flow to your hair follicles and makes it grow.Now if your wearing a perm and want to grow out your natural hair, actually the best thing for that is to keep it in braids or cornrows (keeping it greased in between) and when its time to take the old braids out just get your hair trimmed (not cut) to get that old perm off the ends and put it back up in the braids. Leaving you hair alone and letting it rest from the chemicals and heat is the best thing. hope this helps (20year stylist)